In the changes of your life, will you be a bunch of dry leaves on the ground or a resplendent array of vibrant and powerful leaves, ready with that orange, healing colour of enthusiasm and an appetite for creativity?
Firstly what is change? If we can understand what it is, then we are better able to live with it.
1. A substitute, an exchange
One things is substituted for another. This can be hard if you don’t know or trust the new. It will make it hard to let go of the old which is necessary if the new is ever going to be given a chance. Time needs to be taken in getting to know the new, learning about it and finding out it’s unique points that will bring benefit. You might even need to grieve the old first, before you can effectively take on something else, but if you have time and support, especially from those who have lived with the new that you are just getting to know, you will find it much easier to trust it sufficiently to no longer need the old.
2. A progression, a moving on
Sometimes the change is more obviously better than the old, but because we are so comfortable with what we know, we don’t want it. The old might have even been harmful when compared with the alternative, but we still are fearful of losing the familiar. We need to trust ourselves so that we can move on and tell ourselves that it really will benefit us. Maybe we made a bad choice in the past that we need to forgive ourself for. Sometimes we have believed a lie that the old way was the only one for us. We might even believe that all modern things are no good. Yet by pushing down that belief we can discover a new freedom that enables us not just to move on, but to fly. We can believe in ourselves enough to want to better ourselves, stretch and grow, so that we have more to contribute to the world. There is so much more that we haven’t yet discovered!
3. A refreshing
We can become tired of always plodding on in the same way. Sometimes a change is simply all we need to feel rested and revitalized. It might be something such as simply re-organizing the furniture in a room or taking your spouse on holiday. It doesn’t have to be a major move or separation with lots of upheaval. It doesn’t have to be violent and upsetting. See is as a friend who comes to you with refreshment and let it lift you up.
4. Active Not Passive
If you don’t want life to master you, then you need to master it. You need to watch, listen and take active steps in tending and watering it. Don’t wait until it dies and you have the huge upheaval of having to completely start from scratch, but be wise, keep the flame burning and don’t allow boredom, tiredness, staleness or things wearing out to force you into a state of upheaval. In such a state you may have to passively go where you don’t want to. If you remain actively in control of your own life, you will be ready to move on at the right time and enjoy the many seasons that bring life and meaning to you. Life doesn’t come to you on a silver plate. You have to get up and go for it. Let other people who have been there before, inspire and birth in you hope for a bright future.
Welcoming change is something we need to learn as early as possible, so that it becomes a part of us.